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Lunaryon 05-28-2011 04:13 PM

I need some advice!
 
Alright, I've got a bit of a small crush on a girl, who is somewhat my cousin. She's not related by blood, but her father dated my aunt for a year or so. On top of that, she's my housemates little sister. I have no idea if she's interested in me, but what I care more about is if this is wrong? Is it bad that I feel this way?

Espy 05-28-2011 04:31 PM

IMO, there's no problem in feeling that way. You can't control who she is/who her parents are/what their relationship was. I don't think it's wrong, or that she could even be considered your semi-cousin...

Lunaryon 05-28-2011 04:34 PM

Thanks... It's just a little akward for me. I had my aunt nearly figure out that I liked her, and she wanted to remind me that she was family.

Duchess 05-28-2011 04:43 PM

I had a crush on my "step-cousin" when i was younger >_> His aunt was married to my father. His aunt isn't my mother tho xP

It's fine to feel weird about it. I felt weird too xD So weird that I dedicated about a week to figuring out whether he counts as family or not. I figure if you spend holidays together... their family >_> Which also means if you spend you holidays with friends.. they're kinda like your family too =]

That's no longer a problem though... My daddy divorced his aunt >_>... which doesn't really matter anymore because I'm over the crush. Something about finding out that he smoked weed in daddy's house and stole appliances from him to sell to the neighbours killed it....

If you feel really terrible about it, like sick to the stomach terrible. Maybe you need to find something you definitely don't like about her, to kill the crush.

Lunaryon 05-28-2011 04:46 PM

But I don't feel BAD... Just so very confused.

Espy 05-28-2011 04:55 PM

....She's not related by blood...

...Your aunt would balk if I told her I had a tiny "crush" on my cousin when I was ten. But then that's just puppy love XD

Duchess 05-28-2011 04:56 PM

No need to. She's not related, like you said. Unless you FEEL like she's family to you.

If you don't think she's family, then what other's say doesn't exactly matter... especially when there's no blood

Lunaryon 05-28-2011 04:57 PM

She's just been 'her little girl' for that whole year. I was glad I had a cup with me when she asked. I took a large drink from it and lied through my teeth.

Espy 05-28-2011 05:01 PM

-snort- I just straight out lie.../shot

Lunaryon 05-28-2011 05:02 PM

I can't. I really suck at lieing. The only reason my aunt let it go is because she couldn't see my blush.

CupcakeDolly 05-29-2011 02:16 AM

I wouldn't feel bad about it if I were you. Humans are wired to be attracted to anyone who would make a good mate, regardless of their family ties. That's not to say we should go around doinking our brothers and sisters, cuz let's face it, modern society frowns on that sorta thing. It should be a little bit easier not to feel weird about it in your situation, since she isn't related by blood. If I were you, I would let the crush ride out, but not act on it. Chances are it will fade away with time, and you might not want to risk becoming estranged from your family because of it.

Gallowsraven 05-29-2011 02:23 PM

Not related by blood, and didn't you say that technically she's not family??? Besides, the only way you'll work it out for once and for all, unless the crush vanishes like smoke, is if the pair pf you kiss and it feels like you're kissing a sibling.

I got the reverse of that; a friend i thought of as a brother, a game of spin the bottle soon corrected that, though i felt confused as all hell for a month, you can probably imagine why :D

Quiet Man Cometh 06-02-2011 05:27 AM

I certainly wouldn't say there's anything wrong with it. I do think that it's good to evaluate the social situation around you two first though. Is she visiting a lot, for instance? Are you concerned that things might get awkward if she doesn't like you back in the same way? Definately take anything I say with a grain of salt, I've never really had an intimate relationship, but it seems like something that should be thought about for the sake of social comfort.


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