Needing some advice on a few things.. |M|
 

First thing;

I just started taking some new anti-depressants and so far they make me sleepy and lightheaded as well as nauseous. I still have the rest of the month to go before I see my psychiatrist again and I'm wondering if I should stop taking them or continue for the month and see how that goes..


Second thing;

I have a boyfriend now we started dating last weekend.. thing is I haven't seen him since last weekend. I also haven't heard from him since a text saying "Happy V-day" on Thursday. He said he would be coming over yesterday but he didn't show up and I heard nothing from him the whole day. What exactly should I do? This whole week whenever he said he'd come over he'd end up saying he couldn't make it..

Third thing;

My health is still in the shitter so to speak no matter what I do it seems to not work... any tips on what I can do to get over the sick feelings I've been having since around christmas? There's also the fact my back has been even worse since having the epidural to have my daughter. Does anyone have any hints on how to ease back pain? The pain killers don't work..

Fourth thing;


I've been extremely stressed lately because of everyone saying stuff to me in real life. Having to do every little thing on my own while sick. This including taking care of my four month old daughter. I need some advice on good ways to relieve stress. Sadly I can't go out for a walk because that means dragging my little one out in the freezing cold..and me possibly getting sicker than before..


I think that's it for now... can I please get some advice on these situations?

The thing about having back pains ever since you had the epidural makes me worry that the doctor might have hit a nerve when he did that.

As for the stress, I've often just paced up and down and hallway while listening to music. Trying some yoga or similar might be good for both your stress AND your back.

If the anti-depressant meds are prescribed for a whole month, I think it'd be better if you tried to take them for a whole month. If you think the side effects aren't supposed to be happening, you should probably contact your psychiatrist and see what he thinks about that.

I have a spinal injury in my lower back from when I was 13 so Yoga is probably going to be a bit tougher to do. I can try and give it a shot though..
I think he may have because the pain is right where he put the epidural..

He said that the side effects rarely happen to patients.. but I suppose it's better to stick it out for the month unless it gets even worse.

I think music might help out so I'll give that a shot.

Your first thing, I would say, anytime when take new drugs and they change your behavior, there will be side effects. Though, side effects that deal with your health and different patterns, you should stop taking it, or if possible try to take it in smaller amounts, taking it in a bigger amount can make you feel sick and such. I know about this because I was on one and I had to first take it in smaller amounts and first I had to get the pills cut or split them myself. Though, I have stop taking them due to there being no money for me to take them for my depression and anxiety.

The second thing, this situation is hard to say what you should do. Though for me, if I was in your situation, wait another week and see what happens in reality. Since I don't know the guy or given me anything to go off of, who knows if he is away because of personal issues or just rather do something else then see you. It is early in the relationship to know what is going on. If he is someone who has friends and I mean friends that he is close to, he may just be finding spending time with them is more important then starting a relationship. Of course, there is the idea of work, as what he does for a living, I don't know, but if it could interfere with seeing you, That could be a possibility. Personally, I know how some guys think and I try to stay away from them.

Third thing, I don't want to get into anything as in when did you give birth and such, because that is your personal information. Though, I will say, a lot of women do complain about back pain after. Epidural and spinal anesthesia have no effect on post-partum lower back pain. So you can knock that out. You should probably look into Omega-3. Omega-3 fatty acids are natural anti-inflammatories that can help ease your discomfort. If your pain lasts for more than six months after giving birth, you should visit a chiropractor or other back specialist. For more long-lasting back pain, the cause is often situational, such as poor posture, that started during pregnancy and was never corrected.

As for your stress, this is when I'm going to say your depression and back pain can all be causes of this. Personally, trying to have a relationship that is starting out, can cause more stress as well. All this is stressful for you and the hardest point is being a single mother. Now, I may have no been in your situation, but I know of the stress because I was a child of a single mother and saw all the stress it can bring. I won't say it'll get easier or anything, but you need to find a way and even just putting your little one down for a nap and crawling into bed and just laying there, relaxing can help. If you need to do something active to relief stress, I suggest doing some simple exercises, like sit ups, push ups, simple things. Do at least small amounts before doing more then you can.

You have a lot of changes in your life right now and people in real life could be looking down on you for being young and being a single mother, which I will say is perfectly normal to most single mothers. My mother has told me this herself. She had a harder time with having relationships with guys because most men don't want to start a relationship with a woman who has a child, nor would the mother want to introduce her child to her bf too early. But that you don't need to worry about as much with doing that with the baby as she is young still.

I would try and keep in contact with family and friends that will accept everything you are doing and it takes a strong woman to do and an even stronger women to prove them wrong.

I hope some of my words mean something to you, and you will now know you have a friend in me and I am here to give advice or even just to rant to me. Maybe perhaps, I could look at my cell phone plan and see if it's fine to text across Canada, not cost too much and we could exchange numbers to text. ^.^

Unholy carp that is a lot to read but I managed to read every bit of it. Thank you very much for the advice, Tino. I'll do my best to follow it, although about the medicine I'm on the lowest possible dose already sadly.

He said that he had no work all week and that he'd be over but each time he said he would something happened or he just said it was too late to come over. The fact that he suggested yesterday but didn't contact me at all or respond to a text or two I sent worries me a bit.

My chest kind of makes it impossible for me to do push ups or sit ups though sadly.. maybe I'll try the laying down while she's napping strategy.

Another side effect is yawning, and it's not helping with the nauseous feeling.. ;////;


I always love having new people to text so that'd be great if we could.

I am sorry about that, just me rambling and giving out advice with my own personal experiences. Probably let out a little too much information, but if I didn't it would be useless to speak.

With the medication, try to last out the month till you see your person and try and get a new prescription.

I'm sure you'll fine something to help, you know what your body can do and you'll figure it out.

I know what you mean about the yawning part and the nausea feeling. I have been having that problem lately. When I actually go to bed, laid down and such, I now have a nauseous feeling and yawning doesn't help, it's horrible. Though, I think once you figure out or change that medication, you'll feel fine once again.

It's fine no worries, thank you very much for all the advice being given so far.

well my advice on dating is nonexistant and my opinions on drugs is dont take them so neither are worth giving, i do however want to throw my two cents at you on the back thing

my mom got a bad epidural and she is hurting even after fifteen years and there is nothing to be done to fix it but suing might not be out of the realm of possibility

another thing is a corset, it might not be for you however since that mostly is for muscle issues but it did me an amazing world of good

those are my two bad bits of advice XD

I like corsets so I'll give one a shot if I can find one to fit.

oh finding one that fits is easy trying to get into it alone and stringing it up is the difficult part

I'll just find one that zips up maybe? Or... idk..

i think they all use rope... if it was zip it might break

I've heard of ones that zip up actually.

idk i heard of ones that have metal clasps on the front... but idk about zip ups

Metal clasps in the front could work too.

but you still have to have it strung on the back

I have two... both with metal tabs down the back... Annoying to put on. Having to do them up first, twist the corset around and fix yourself. XD

Bah, I need someone around who can help with this kind of thing..

I'm used to doing that with bras.

my underwear lady keeps a lot of steel-zip ones in stock and has very few sringed ones XD steel clasps are her stock mostly

See I said there's zip up ones!

lol really choco... i can just imagine you wearing one right now...

either way look for a local place that will sell /please/ never try and do it alone, if done incorrectly a corset can hurt you

I need to be closer for you Maro.

I'm good with underwear and shoes. XD

I live alone I don't really have much other choice in the matter.. ;////;

You make me want to be sad for you, my dear.
*huggles*
You are so close yet so far and I want to help you, babe.

pffft XD it is ugly but my choice is http://www.corsets-uk.com/media/cata...t_corset_1.jpg or http://www.guysingirdles.com/Images/...orks%20960.jpg

XD which would /you/ chose? besides i want to get pretty things to wear not just useful

zippers are the most prevalent anymore since they are easiest, it is much harder to get stringed and you need to be careful not to get one that is simply decorative

You're so sweet Tino :s-blush:

Honestly I like that one but I'd definitely need one that can fit my KK+ breasts.. so it's a little... harder to find one around here.

not that kind of alone sweetie, i put them on myself i mean picking one out, if you go too small you can kill yourself or at least break a bone and if you go too large then you've done nothing and if the shape is wrong or it is worn incorectly it can warp you badly

Oh yes yes I know about that, I thought you meant the kind of alone I referred to.

omg i just imagined choco wearing a corset... but i have to admit choco looked good

with underbusts breasts dont factor in at all, i have no tits so i wear them fine, my friend is a dd and she can wear my corset(it looks better on her though because she has a girl shape already XD)

I can't wear underbust, I tried one once but they are just so heavy that it dug in ;////;

it is sexy XD i have a girl shape, completly novel and both of my roommates like the way i look

girl shape? -tilts head-

then you may need a compression bra XD (...so, can you tell i harrass my underwear lady a lot? i saw a pic in the catalogue i got to look through and had to ask)

choco is fat but still no shape XD it is all a flat line at every angle, the way a corset works it pulls in at the waist so when i wear it i have a bit of a pull-in at the waist

I'm very curvy, my hips got wider from having my daughter,hence a larger butt as a result. I wore a corset before but my chest was so big it started to pop out of the top so my friend said I'd definitely need at least a 2X for those alone.

your friend is stupid XD you need a custom, it is not a teeshirt where you can make up the difference, there are stays to keep it from moving so it would still not fit your boobs and would be too loose

(sorry if i sound like a know-it-all, i have been wanting to get once since i was in the accident so i researched a lot and had the underwear lady educate me where i had gaps)

I am jealous to say the least.

I am small, yet I am not... I am weird. XD

XD i dont even know what that means~


sooo my corset lady might also be in denial, she is a bigot towards her cross-dressing customers but my voice is high and my face rather ambiguous so she thought i was a proper lady and when, after she did that 'white guilt but not calling it that' thing of saying she was not biased then ragged on those ladies i told her i was part of the non-child-bearing group she tried to explain to me i was still a girl because a lack of external penis was the only dif between girls and boys XD