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Lauv Keiko 03-30-2011 07:57 AM


Oh wow...Duchie is right... OwO;
lil sis, forget what I said. XD

Duchess 03-30-2011 08:43 AM

Meeh~

I've just found that a lot of relationships die because of lack of communication and assumptions based on other person's opinion.

If you know your partner well enough, you should know what you can allow them to do.

If your partner liked to sleep around before you got together, then that's obviously going to be a flag point when you're together.

But if they never did that, why assume that they will??? Because other people did?

That's beyond stupid, and that kind of thinking will cause issues.

The only people suitable to ask other than your partner themselves, is their family, friends and exs. People who KNOW the person you're talking about. Not us. I don't know him. =/

If it turns out he doesn't initiate convo with ANYONE (like me. I don't start convos with ANYONE not family, friends, whoever), then your issue is an not a problem. He just doesn't like to start conversations. Doesn't mean he's not interested in you.

But if he starts conversations and texts OTHER people all he time... just not you. THEN you have a problem.

No use assuming things. Find out all the facts. Also... if you have to ask, you probably don't really know the person you're dating's personality =/

Batty 03-30-2011 01:33 PM

I agree with Duchess. You really need to talk to him, Ao.

Again, we don't know your boyfriend, so we really can't really say much on the situation. Long Distance Relationships are HARD. They need a lot more effort put into them, and communication is key.

Say, if you talked to him about it, he said he'd try, and then nothing came from that? Then I would suggest you just break up with him. Sitting around and waiting for something to happen is NOT the way to go.

Let me ask you a question? ... In the seven months you've been dating him, has it always been this way? Or just recently? Because if its just started, then I would worry. But if its been like this, where you've had to start the conversations all along? Well then, I wouldn't worry too much about it.

But I'd still have a talk with him regardless.

And to Nicole, Who I love dearly : Not every boy someone dates online sees someone, or many someones, on the side.

Immamoonkin 03-30-2011 01:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nicole (Post 595616)
break
internet dating never works
rule of guys
different zipcode means different and number of girlfriends

Coda and I met on the internet. Dated for close to 4 years. Now we're married and have a child. :P I don't think it's right for you to speak for guys.

Duchess 03-30-2011 02:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Immamoonkin (Post 604700)
Coda and I met on the internet. Dated for close to 4 years. Now we're married and have a child. :P I don't think it's right for you to speak for guys.

^ Pretty much what she said. Not every guy is the same ;]

Batty 03-30-2011 02:34 PM

Yeah.. you can't really judge the whole male species off of one persons actions..

Mica 03-30-2011 06:24 PM

Like everyone said, Duchess is correct.

I've had my guy for over five years, LDR is definitely trying but the best advice has already been given: TALK TO HIM.

It has done WONDERS for my relationships, romantic, friendship or even just relatives. Communication is the key to any relationship you have, don't try and give subtle hints, don't try and make him guess, just tell him. It'll be easier for you who won't have to go through disappointment and for him to finally know what the hell you're talking about.

From what I've read though, the fact that you're considering it because he simply doesn't initiate conversation is kind of answer enough. Everyday people grow, and everyday you have to get to know them. Don't ever stop because they don't ever stop changing.

Darkest Laugh 03-31-2011 09:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nicole (Post 595616)
break
internet dating never works
rule of guys
different zipcode means different and number of girlfriends

Your sexism angers me.

Desmond 03-31-2011 10:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Darkest Laugh (Post 606961)
Your sexism angers me.

It angered me too. ^^;


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